Sister Sharron Sunday School 11/3/13

Sister Sharron Sunday School 11/3/13

More on etiquette:

When we come to the sanctuary or in our homes we want to pray for someone as if they would walk in the room and we would be comfortable with what we are saying.

Tips in the restaurant should be between 15 and 20 percent. 

We watched a woman and man walking and the lady carried the bag and the baby and the man carried nothing and was lighting a cigarette.  All of us are men or women and only some choose to be gentlemen and ladies.

If you are poor and cannot afford pay a tip in a restaurant then you should bow out instead of sponging. 

For rich people that had maids, the scullery maid was the lowest, maybe the one that helped in the kitchen.   The writer of the book on etiquette said that when you see a rich one speak to a child or a scullery maid as if they were dirt, you can know that she hasn’t come very far from the ground herself.

Modest is properly, restrained by a sense of propriety; hence, not forward or bold; not presumptuous or arrogant; not boastful; not ostentatious.  Modesty is observing the proprieties of your gender.  Not unladylike, not ungentlemanly. 

Dignity is a state of being worthy or honorable; Quality inspiring excellence.  It is not considering oneself loftier than the next.  Excellence means with grace possessing good qualities in the highest degree, exalted merit, superior.

Gen 1:26  And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

Gen 1:27  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

God created some of us as female and created some of you others as male.  We have a role in the position that God created us.  We are to bring out excellence in the way that God created us.  It is up to me to portray the way that God created me. 

God created us two separate genders.  He would like to be able to celebrate that difference.  We need to do the same.  It is a disservice to try to conglomerate two separate paintings into one.  If we have a thankful heart, how God created us, it will help us inside and it will show outside.

We should be real, no phonies, we should find enjoyment in the way God made us.  It should not be a drudgery we should enjoy it.

We need to be the happiest people on earth.  It is our strength and a drawing to others.

Gen 3:21  Unto Adam also and to his wife did the LORD God make coats of skins, and clothed them.

I know that God clothed them as a man and a woman.  That is how he made them.  I know this because I know God.

Deu 22:5  The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.

Abomination means extreme disgust.  If we are to be as Christians we need to have the same attitude that God has.  God has a hatred for that.  If men put on a dress God hates it.  If women put on pants it is no different to Him. 

If it is a principle then it is the same today as in the Old Testament.  If it is tradition then it is left off.  The principle is the same today.  It doesn’t matter if you are young or old or in the North Pole or the equator.  No matter the culture, there is a way to follow this.  The principle is men and women, ladylike and gentlemen. 

When I got saved, I meant business.  I threw out the jewelry, I threw out the pants.  I meant business because I needed a miracle. 

Men need to wear their clothes loose enough.  Too tight is uncomfortable and immodest.  Loose pants hanging down around the thighs also are immodest and slovenly. 

Esther was desperate and went to the house of the king.  We come to the King of kings and we need to be desperate for answers to prayer.  She left nothing lacking and if we want God to hold out the scepter for answer to prayer, we need to leave nothing lacking.

Jesus suffered such agony.  He suffered pain yet when He looks down and sees a soul saved he says, “It was worth it all.”  We want Jesus to look down at us when we come to the house of God and say, “It is worth it all.”

Men should wear a t-shirt under their shirt.  It is modest.  The saints know how to dress.  When you come to church wearing your white sports socks with your dark slacks, it doesn’t look as nice as a dark pair of dress socks.  Some men wear a hanky.  Some carry an extra one that is clean so that if a lady is crying or in need of one he can lend one that is clean.

1Co 6:19  What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

1Co 6:20  For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

We are bought with a price.  If he created us female or male then we should follow that pattern.  Some are adventurous.  I think of Sister Alice but she still conducts herself as a female and is modest.

1Co 11:14  Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?

1Co 11:15  But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

It is a shame: nature teaches you that a man should have short hair.  Men should wear good shoes with their trousers. 

We need to be cleanly.  We should wash our hair so that it is clean.  If we have dry rough places, then lotion them up. 

We need to brush our teeth and floss.  Keep breath mints.  Our fingernails need to be shaped somewhat and clean.  We need our clothes not only not spotted but so that they smell good. 

For a woman her hair is given her for a covering. 

1Ti 2:9  In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

1Ti 2:10  But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.

We are to be modest.  Shamefaced means showing modesty inside and out.  One of the things that caused me to get saved was seeing a man of God testify and thinking, “He looks clean to me on the inside and on the out.” 

We want our conduct to be clean inside and outside.  Modesty doesn’t mean going to the goodwill to buy your clothing.  We should buy clothing with enough quality that you are comfortable.  Everything I have washes.  I don’t have to dress ragged even to clean my house.

Your neckline needs to be high enough.  I got these dresses that are kind of different in the neckline than I am used to wearing.  We need to be conscientious so that others are comfortable looking at us. 

Etiquette means considering the others.  We need to have our skirts long enough so that we can bend over and pick things up and not be embarrassed or cause others to be embarrassed.  Our clothes need to be loose enough.  We all need to be able to sit in our seat or raise our hand in the choir and not feel embarrassed by our short sleeve. 

We should not wear things so sheer that our undergarments show.  We shouldn’t wear things that are ill fitting.  We need to look like we care about our clothing. 

You can do it all right and yet if you are not saved then you will not go to heaven.  If we are saved then we need to do it right.  I want to do my best.  Look at what it cost Jesus.  What is doing all this?  It is showing that we care.

Php 3:8  Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ,

What is it to provide excellence to show for Jesus?  I thought of this when I was studying modesty. 

We need to have shoes that will support our weight.  I have found some shoes that are sturdy that I could wear all day.  We need to not be afraid to spend our money for the quality that we need.  I don’t have ten pair of shoes, but what I have I can stand on all day.