Sis Timberly Sunday School 11/27/11

Sis Timberly Sunday School 11/27/11

1Jn 4:7  Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.

God is the source of love.  This Greek word,  reference #26: love or affection or benevolence, a feast of charity.  It comes from reference #25: to love in a social sense, embracing the sentiment of will.  Compare this to another that means: to be a friend to personal attachment as a matter of feeling.   Sometimes you love because you feel it, other times you love because you know how you should act.  When you are tired it can be hard.  One is of the heart and the other is of the head.

1Jn 4:16  And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.

1Jn 4:13  Hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit.

He has given us of His Spirit.

Gal 5:22  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,

Gal 5:23  Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

If we have the Spirit of God working in us then it will produce this in our lives.  We cannot take the credit, it is God’s doing. 

The Holy Spirit brings us what we need to be equipped to handle what comes into our lives.  We don’t want to refer to something that comes to us as a challenge because that is limiting the Holy Ghost. 

No man will make a law against the fruit of the Spirit.

1Co 13:1  Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.

1Co 13:2  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

1Co 13:3  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.

1Co 13:4  Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

1Co 13:5  Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

1Co 13:6  Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

1Co 13:7  Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

1Co 13:8  Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

1Co 13:9  For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.

1Co 13:10  But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.

1Co 13:11  When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

1Co 13:12  For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.

1Co 13:13  And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.

This is the same word for love as the Greek reference #26, it comes from God.  When we feel our lack we can go to God.  I desire to have the Spirit working in my heart.  It will cause the fruits to be there and all that is in this chapter to be in our heart. 

This kind of love will help us to know how to raise our children and help us with relationships in our life.  It is a guiding light that will inspire us and help us with situations in our life. 

The end of the matter is that our children have a choice.  Even when your children are grown if you show charity to them then it will make a difference.

There are many love languages.  We don’t always feel that people love us as much as they do.  We need to know how to communicate love to others. 

The love languages: the first one is physical touch.  (Reading from the seven love languages of children.)

Luk 18:15  And they brought unto him also infants, that he would touch them: but when his disciples saw it, they rebuked them.

Luk 18:16  But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.

Luk 18:17  Verily I say unto you, Whosoever shall not receive the kingdom of God as a little child shall in no wise enter therein.

Jesus understood the need of children to be touched, held and loved.  He didn’t withhold himself because of fear of being misunderstood.  When physical touch is the primary language through which they understand love, make sure that after you discipline them that you hold them and hug them. 

Holding them on your lap and reading a book is a great way to communicate this.  Playing games and wrestling, high-five or knucks are all physical touch communication.

The second love language is affirmation.  These words are like a gentle rain falling on the soul and are not soon forgotten.

Pro 18:21  Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

We have all experienced both death and life from the tongue.  When you realize that the love language of your child is affirmation, be very careful to not tear them down with words.

1Co 8:1  Now as touching things offered unto idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth.

Edify here means to be a house-builder.  There is nothing that will puff up in charity it will build them up and embolden them. 

Once you say something in the negative you cannot take it back.  You can say sorry and regret it but it takes a while to repair the damage once you tear down.  It is a good thing to go to your children and tell them that you are sorry. 

We need to watch what we think about and talk about; why tear down when you can take the opportunity to build up?  It makes all of us feel wonderful when someone builds us up. 

Pro 15:1  A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Anger is a big subject.  It is the biggest enemy of encouragement.  It takes patience and practice to give a soft answer.  It is a process and we need to always be working on it with our self and our children.  When you get sanctified we still have to deal with anger.  When someone pours anger on you, you will have an emotion. 

Deal with it constructively.  Solve the problem.  If you work on solving the problem, handle it peaceably and work through it.  Don’t just internalize and have it jump out later.

If you just flatter your child then it will come across fake.  Say what you mean.  Watch for your child doing right and praise them.  We need to be careful to say things the right way to our children.  Choose your words wisely, this also comes from God.

The third love language is quality time.  It will require your undivided attention.  It will be you putting them first and then you can get your project done. 

Joh 12:25  He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal.

Being a mother or a father will require us to lay down our life to be what God wants us to be.  I met a mother of eight that is trying to be a godly mother.  She gave me a paper that said, a two year old told her, “Wow you sure have your hands full.”  Everywhere you go there will be those that will tell you that you won’t be smiling when they are teenagers.  I told my two year old what I tell everyone, “I have my hands full of good things.

In society children rate below everything, below college, below sitting around and doing nothing, below everything.  Is motherhood a rock bottom job for those that cannot do anything else? 

When you are with your children you are standing with the defenseless and represent everything that our culture hates because you are laying down your life for another.  Death is what society hates.  A Christian should run to the cross and desire to give up his life.  Following death is resurrection.  

Have you given your life for your children resentfully tallying everything that you do for them?  Or have you given it as Jesus did, unreservedly?  Put the value of your children ahead of your own.  Give your life for theirs every day joyfully, lay down pettiness and self pity.  There is more laughter and life on the other side of death than you can possibly carry along.

A lot of misbehavior is seeking for attention and love.  Many are talking of quality time yet few people are receiving it.  It is a sacrifice to give quality time.  It means giving up something on your list.  You must sacrifice something in order to give quality time. 

To that child the most important thing is being together and doing something together.

Suzanna Wesley scheduled an hour a week with each child alone.  She taught them schooling, morals, manners.